With this as a starting point, the ladies in our Circle felt they couldn’t say with 100% certainty all three pillars worked for them. Most surprisingly, they realized they couldn’t fully trust themselves. It really came down to 4 major reasons:
Many spoke of growing up in a generation where we were taught that “doing the right thing, following the rules” was the paramount rule to live by! “We didn’t hear the words or have a foundation of spiritual guidance to let us know to always trust your heart and find your inner voice. It was never our option to self-direct and go inside of ourselves as the way to create our own path. Self trust never entered the picture.”
For most, it was felt to be practically impossible not to be affected by what others think—personally and in the work place. “How often do we tend to call friends and ask for their opinions or judgments about our own stuff or go against what feels innately right to us because our jobs demand it, or we simply want to feel like we fit in?”
Religion trumps everything---most have been taught of the necessity to abide by the rules of religion on “blind faith” as passed down from generations. The lines between Trust and Faith can appear blurry as a result. For some, “trusting in a higher power is not a guarantee that all will be well”, so begs the questions “how can we really trust and isn’t there an expectation that everything will always work out if we do?”
Life experience gets in the way of fully trusting! “We become jaded as we age with experiences of being duped, mistreated, cheated and judged both by ourselves and others”. Cynicism creeps in and before you know it we’re farther away from our inner voices and our soul connections as ever!
So we asked ourselves-- how can we learn to trust ourselves first? How do we even begin to find our inner voices through the fear, stress and chaos of life? Are we strong enough within ourselves to turn away from what others think and feel about us? Is it possible to separate faith and trust? Can we accomplish this without trusting in a higher power?
While this rang true for the Circle, knowing who you are, what you believe and what you stand for became our starting point. The ladies had these suggestions
Find times of stillness and silence in your day to tap into your inner knowing—learn to listen to the quiet. When you catch a glimpse of your inner voice, remember how it feels and try to allow it come through again the next time